Midlife wife crisis14

[Wolfman]

LH,

I've seen your advice to Wolf, and I agree with a lot that you had to say. But because Wolf hasn't followed your advice, that does not give you the green light to ridicule him. You even called him a narcissist. If you believe that, why are you even posting on his thread.

Since when has sarcasm been appropriate? I think it's safe to assume that you don't talk to your wife like that when you don't agree with her. That's bush league dude.

And no, I never said that you should agree with everything Wolf says or does. In fact, if you read my message above, I said I didn't agree with a lot of things he does/says.

And I'm glad you realize will always be a work in progress because there are some things you can work on. You should start with an apology to Wolf. And if you disagree or can't do that, perhaps you are the one that needs to take a hard look in the mirror.

Considering that you have been here for 3 years and have 4,000 posts under your belt, I guess I would expect more from you someone like you. Show some class.

Thornton thank you for sticking up for me. I really do appreciate it. I do stink at DB and can definitely do a better job. I know this is hard for everyone who gets to this point. I definitely flailed a lot, maybe more than most. At times LH’s comments have been a little harsh. And at times it does bother me. But I also don’t mind the truth no matter how hard it is to hear. Yes, the comment about me being a narcissist was hurtful. Again, I made plenty of mistakes but I always wanted to keep the family intact. I would of sacrificed my happiness for it too. I know a lot of you would not agree with that, but for my kids to have a stable family, I would have.

Dude what is your problem? He laughed about it.

Look I’m not a psychologist but I have had a narcissist as a father for 51 years so I know the signs.

I’ve already told you I keep posting because I’m trying to help him.

You said it there. You are not a psychologist and just because your dad might have been one doesn’t make you an expert in that area, so calling me a narcissist was offensive. But most of the time I do appreciate how you put it to me straight. I need that “tough love” at times. I know I have made so many mistakes and screwed so many things up. I just could not handle divorce like some of you here. I also know now I made many mistakes in my marriage and this board has taught me a lot. Mistakes that I will not make again or at least be more aware of how I speak and my actions. I wish I would have been a DB pro, but honestly I don’t know if it would of helped. My ex is so deep in a MLC I don’t think it would have helped. Please don’t stop posting but I would appreciate no more name calling.

ANOTHER STANDER, I read through everything you wrote. A lot of times I come on here and talk about my ex is to give you all background info. Not necessarily to blame for anything but to let you all know what’s going on.
As far as me asking her if she wanted to go on meds, I was only suggesting for a little while. She was going through depression and I was telling her to maybe take them to take the edge off. I did t know what else to suggest at the time. I realize now I should have just been there for her more. Right by her side and just trying to talk to her more. She refused any advice I would give. And now being here, I shouldn’t have given advice I should have just loved her more and been more supportive. My ex may not be “poisoning “ my d directly(saying this directly to her) but she makes sure to say it in ear shot. And she knows she is listening and will absorb the info.

Honestly I am so tired and I guess still in a little shock this is how my life turned out. But I am moving forward. I am very happy with GF. We have a great relationship. It truly doesn’t bother me that ex has moved on. I just have to work on that relationship with my d. Another Stander do you think I should read that book about teens? I need help there and want to be proactive.

Wow this post was emotionally draining.