I want to expand more on what I think happened in your marriage and I think you are starting to realize it too. You most likely were controlling and manipulative but you didn’t realize it. In fact you were doing the best you could with the tools you had. Peter Crone has a quote that you can’t be held responsible for something that you weren’t aware of. That doesn’t mean it isn’t real to her it just means you have to forgive yourself. Keep working on being the man you want to be.
If you can drop all pressure which includes any manipulation she will notice. Now I think at this point she is most likely going to take the D train. Life is surely not going to work out the way she expects. There’s not a plethoras of men available who have it all figured out.
In one of MWD videos she pleads with WWs to give their spouses one more chance because they have finally figured it out. She said they go out to make great second husbands. If you can understand your role in the breakdown of the marriage and correct it I think you will be one of those husbands.
