I have no good words of wisdom for you. Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you, I know how rough this is and he is definitely in la-la land right now.
Is there anything you can do right now to protect yourself and your kids? I can't remember if you've seen an attorney yet or not, but with the $$ thing that seems like a good next step?
(((HUGS)))
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing