Well just got off the phone with a friend who informed me of what was happening on facebook... its not just sex with the OW... he went on to state even though they have known each other for years and this is fledgling g relationship he says he is in love with her...
The worst part is that this guy he is supposedly staying with, R and his wife are all lovey dovey and so happy for them.... wth??? He is a married man....
I thought his snooping was because he was waffling.. that maybe we had a chance...
Ther were apparently very graphic comments about what they were doing last weekend and getting g a room....
I was a fool to think he would come back.
I'm trying to be strong... I know I was the best thing to ever happen to him. He at one point was a wonderful part of my life.
Wait. He posted on Facebook while he is married about being with another woman? And listed graphic details in the comments about their sex life?
Ew. Who does that?
And are you not friends with him on FB?
Sorry, but he should be embarrassed. That's so tacky. It says so much about him. And her.
Steve is right. Why is he not already gone? Why is he coming home so often if the commute is so hard?
He is saying those things about "honeymoon phases" and "marrying too soon" and "toxic relationship" because that makes him sleep better at night. That's the justification he has made up so he doesn't have to look at himself in the mirror and see the truth. My husband cheated on me and said, "If you were the wife you were supposed to be I wouldn't have done what I did." What a gem. These cheaters make this stuff up for their own benefit and it's pathetic.
He unfriended me, my friends and family a week ago... mostly because this started going but its ramped up. He told his parents that he was moving out... but he has a lot of his family seeing this stuff.
What's worse is how his friends, R and his wife are just so lovey dovey with extra hearts all over place on their comments just giving him more jsutification.
I know exactly what I did that led him where he is out. He felt empty and rejected by me... i see how hard he was trying g to connect with me a month ago and I just wasnt there... I was dealing with my own issues... if could only go back he might have continued to lean on me for his support rather than in his loneliness start to confide in someone else.
Back to not sleeping.
This is such a punch in the gut... why doesnt he just own his behavior???? He wants to "rip the bandage" off quickly and just move on.... why doesnt he just tell me he loves her????? And force me to cut him out???
He is going to take her fishing on my boat... go riding with her on my motorcycle... I'm just sick.
