This is a marathon. I've never been a runner--well, once in high school I tried to take it up, running loops around the cemetery down the street. Kindly, you're around seven months now, I'm at around nine. I think I've said this before, but the time has flown by for me. I'm not sure how it feels for you.
Hi Cardinal! I literally just wrote on my page about how I can’t believe 7/8 months have flown by! It’s unreal. (And crazy how on pace we are with each other and thought processes). I couldn’t agree more with what PLC said ...it’s getting off the rollercoaster and not allowing ourself to ride the crazy up and down ride with our spouse...instead keeping ourself a little more even keel. This community has been so helpful in allowing us to instead choose to get on the rollercoaster with people that are on the same ride as we are. People we can relate to, people that can make us feel less “crazy” with what we are experiencing...reminding us to detach, that we can’t fix H, and to GAL. Im so glad your H seems to have slowed down and stabilized...maybe it’s the opposite of what your thinking and he could be self reflecting. Maybe IC is helping??? The sad part is we have no control and won’t know until we know. In my sitch H doesn’t speak at all, is gone for longer periods of time, obsessively working, and wouldn’t dare get any help of any kind because he doesn’t think there is anything at all wrong. I agree it’s soooo difficult when they appear so steady and together. Keep the baking and gardening going Cardinal ...you are doing very well.
