Separated and facing divorce (part 4)

[DonH]

I’m not perfect, but I also wasn’t the one who had an affair and stepped outside their marriage.

I **am** a great father. Please don’t compare me to a WH.

I know you are struggling firemann and I don't want to hit you when you’re down. I just hear so many people make comments about what a great mother or father they are - while abusing drugs and/or their kids, having no job, providing no shelter, protection, or food. You, thankfully are not close to being any of these. But based on your own statements and admissions, you are not a great father - yet. I only say that because if you think you already are it may prevent you from getting where you need to be. Great fathers don’t guilt or shame their children into spending time with them by claiming they are making them feel depressed, etc. they just don’t.

You’re not there yet buddy. I think you can get there but you need to start displaying the actions that make you a great father. Just thinking or saying it doesn’t cut it. Set out to become the great father you think you are. You’ll get there. Own it, it’s okay. The first step in solving most problems is admitting and identifying the problem exists first.