So in your relationship, would you say the business partnership was the problem?
It was an annoyance, not a core issue. I valued our relationship more than leading group adventures.. and she was a great duo adventure partner. I put that dream on-hold because it was worth it to make us work.
Originally Posted by Akham
At the moment he’s not in an affair, but I’ve caught him twice before with messages on his phone. The last time was late last year. I think trust is broken on intention, regardless of how far you take it.
Are you positive about his intention based on the content of his side of those exchanges? I had a colleague once who, on business trips, often bought a random lady a drink and enjoyed the bit of attention that got him. We'd shoot pool or somesuch after and then return to the hotel together.
Originally Posted by Arkham
But I feel like I don’t get that kind of appreciation and reciprocation, just on the rare occasions when he feels like it. The rest of the time I feel criticized, and it’s tiring.
Did he do something to celebrate your birthday--a dinner or a gift?
It sounds like your resentment's building and you're almost ready to leave. Have you let your partner know? The sooner you "Ball Drop" them that there are grave marital issues, the sooner you two can decide how much effort you're each willing to put in, leading towards a happy ending together or in divorce.
