Good job. Remember: Informational texts do not warrant a response.
As far as what's going on in his head, likely he doesn't know! I know my W was very clear that she didn't know what she wanted from minute to minute.
Steve85 -
Thanks for the reinforcement...
The way he has been clearing things off his list to do at the house and knowing we are in a holding pattern with financials until we see what can be paid off... I'm certain that he is seeing that with the bonus there is a finality for him in sight.
He found all the paperwork he needed to take to get mortgage approval. And, just like I said even though I handled all the finances everything was an open book for him to look at - I was hiding nothing. He did it all by himself without having to send texts asking where this was or that was. I know he is house hunting with new realtor today and tomorrow.
I haven't seen any indication that he is changing his mind from minute to minute. He is convinced we are toxic with each other that we can't even travel a short distance without bickering. Of course I know he is thinking all about the negatives and not the positives at this point... all the negatives are flashing like a neon sign in his head. But, outside of that he really is like a stranger here. He doesn't even sit in his recliner when he is here. Just at the kitchen table. The TV has not been turned on once in weeks.
I feel good at the moment to have a few days to regroup and focus on items at home. Especially having some time to devote to the puppy who desperately needs it. It will be tough to see once he is busy looking at houses and hanging with R (male friend) and family and still staying in contact or seeing OW that I won't even get an information text from him.
But, thanks again for the reinforcement. I will look at things that keep me busy which will be more challenging as I am not working this weekend.
