WW Patience, Limbo amd Fear

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I just want to say thanks Wayfarer and Steve. Your posts resonated well and kicked me right out of that mindset. All but one day since your posts have been good. I've been happy, W and I communicate more and kids are thriving. On one day, W criticized me twice in front of S1. When I confronted her, she blamed me. Not a good sign but maybe things are still improving overall. I could tell she felt attacked. I spent about 2 hours thinking of how to communicate the boundary in a way that wouldnt hurt her and brought it up in a nice, pleasant way. Still she gets hurt and I blamed. She's of course said nice things and has even corrected D4 when she acted not great towards me. My actions maybe set us back again though I wont stand for being negatively criticised to my kids. Example...daddy is not good at changing diapers and cleaning you. Mommy is better.

I learned from someone (I didnt ask for this info) that she is on the fence right now. She is looking for someone to tell her or justify with her whether to stay or D. Ive been painted bad and some hurtful lies were told about me. No self reflecting on her end yet that I know of. Is this all normal? The anxiety talking here...what if she never self reflects? I'll always be the bad guy. The last week other than one day was so nice. The one day still bugs me so I know thats my own issue to get over. I think I started to attach more and let the criticism get to me.