Husband Living a Double Life

[oceangrl]

MoGirl,

Reading your posts brings back so many feelings from the awful time I went through. My husband had a secret bank account, he had bought a Porsche I knew nothing about (it was pre-owned and needed fixing up), his affair was 2 years long with a friend of mine. I could not eat or sleep. I went down to 103 pounds. I cried all the time.

A book that MWD recommends is "Not Just Friends" by Dr. Shirley Glass. It explains what your husband is thinking and why he would do something so insane. People who end up in affairs can't fill their own holes.

You are in the shock phase. It will get better. Get counseling asap, especially someone who specializes in this. I had a great coach who can work with people online but I don't know how to do private messages or if that's allowed.

I echo so much of what Steve says. Take care of yourself.

My advice, is don't make any big life decisions right now. Just keep yourself safe and take care of yourself. DR is helpful to read because it helps you to be healthy and take care of yourself no matter what ends up happening with your relationship.