Divorce because I betrayed her trust - PART 7

[DaB35]

...I believe she proved otherwise. You should have left her to deal with her mess. I'd put all that stuff up for sale on craigslist and get rid of it asap or donate it.

Your best friend is close enough to your XW that you worry about him keeping things between you two? I dunno man, that's a little messed up. Since you're worried about it, I wouldn't say much.

Thanks O. It was a tricky call as the new buyers moved in the following day. The house had to be vacant of any stuff belonging to either of us, otherwise the Ls would withold the sale proceeds. I was under the impression she'd have taken everything of hers, and so there'd just be my stuff left to take. I do intend to sell some of it yes! E.g. there was a printer that she left - she bought it but no longer needs it. I don't need a new one either, so I'll sell that definitely.

Yes I won't say much to friend later today. I'm more interested in hearing about his new work plans anyway.

Don't tell him anything. You may think he only listens to XW, but I doubt that's the case. A lot of mutual friends will fancy themselves the "great savior of the marriage" and will say all the wrong things to the WAS. He misses you, he'd get back together in a second if only you would show a little interest, he's just miserable, I really think you should give it another shot, etc. etc. Their heart is in the right place but their words do more harm than good. What you should tell him instead is that you are starting to not miss her anymore, that you're moving on, that you are feeling pretty good about things and your GAL is going really well, etc. THAT is the kind of stuff you want to get back to her.

Very good points AS. Thank you. Yes, I am mainly going to focus on updating my activities - gym, study, hobbies etc - and talk to him about his new plans.