Ovrrnbw: Thank you for your kinds words. You're right. He's not the same person I used to know. He's not the same person I thought he was a few days ago. The last two years of our life was a lie and he was pretending. I don't understand why he didn't divorce me back then instead of me finding out this way and putting me and my daughter through pure hell.
Oceangrl: Yes, he is definitely in the affair fog. Besides sex, what in the world does he have in common with a 21 year old? What do they talk about? All of their messages where basically "I love you my love, I'm so happy I found you, We are soul mates, God brought us together". Besides professing his love and how he is a changed man, he told her all the ways he wanted to make love to her. Eck! There were no real conversations of substance. I have the DB book and started reading it before I found out this information. I don't know if I should continue because isn't it about saving your marriage? I have no intentions of trying to do so. I start IC this Friday.
Steve85: After I confirmed my suspicions, I gave him the passwords to his email. I had hacked into them and changed the passwords until I was finished gathering all of the information I needed. I found where he had set-up two secret bank accounts that I knew nothing about. Plus a trip to some resort where they went for the weekend. I forwarded all of this to my email accounts in case I could use this information in the divorce. Yes, I hate that this information is seared in my brain, but now I know the truth. No turning back now.
I wake up crying every morning. Maybe because this is so new and my feelings are so raw. Also, I was diagnosed with the flu yesterday. Ugh....
Me: 47 H: 45 T: 24 M:23 D23 BD #1 12/19: ILYBNILWY BD #2 2/20: I discovered H was having an affair with OW. (OW is 21 and lives in another country) Current R status: Separated.
