Chum's WAW

[MrBrside]

Regarding her needs being met, I take it as with her being with OM. The only thing I can think of right now is we didn't get to go out much for dates etc. due to the kids and busy work schedule, but I should have made an effort to make this happen. We did spend almost all of our evenings together but mostly at home. Now I think she's enjoying her little escape from reality once or twice per week when I have the kids over and she's enjoying her freedom. I know she often struggles when she has the kids on her own and seems to look forward to the break when I have them.

I could have ( may have ) written this 14 months ago - I often felt like this when my WAW got with the OM..

My WAW struggled with the kids ( still does ) and loves her nights out... let’s put this into context - Your WW isn't 21 anymore - she is an adult and made decisions along the way. she has children, she has / had a husband - she had responsibilities... I'll never get why people (note people, not just women) decide they want to settle, bang on about having children and bring a child into the world etc, but don't grasp the concept that children are not a Barbie doll / He-man figure. Children are not toys these people can just put down once they get bored / want to move onto the next exciting thing. i.e. Once you become a parent they have to make sacrifices for 14 - 18 years.. Sandi writes that the WAW is the most selfish type of individual - or words to that effect from memory - and it’s true..
So what do you need to do - be the opposite of the self destructive WAW. Be there for your children, be the best dad you can be and show the kids the love / happy environment they deserve – You don’t need WAW to do this – its something you can provide and control… you can't control her or her silly actions. Let her self destruct - while you build on being a better you, the best father you can be and make the most of the life you are making..