Sorry you are here, but you've found a great place to help you through your sitch.
What struck me was your point about not being able to get what you read, saw and heard out of your head. I relate so much to that. As a chronic snooper I really always kind of regretted seeing what I saw. I would read everything, watch everything, listen to everything. And I didn't need to. There is nothing wrong with doing some recon to confirm your suspicions, but I encourage anyone reading this to stop once you have what you need. The images, sounds, and words will stay with you for a very long time.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018