We arrange when I have the kids on a weekly basis which is not ideal. It's due to my work shifts as I work some weekends and so have some weekdays off. Ws job is flexible so she plans her work days for when I'm off so I take care of the kids. The photos are something we've always done and I do appreciate them when I'm missing the kids, so not sure I'd want to stop that. It's usually a photo of them in the morning and before bed and I think I'd miss that. Will cut down communication for sure and just keep it about the kids as I do want to hear how they are and what they've been doing. I'll stop engaging in conversations about Ws work and stuff, just listen and validate.
Okay, will resist the urge to give her a piece of my mind. I almost wanted to bring up divorce as she has not mentioned the D word once.
Regarding her needs being met, I take it as with her being with OM. The only thing I can think of right now is we didn't get to go out much for dates etc. due to the kids and busy work schedule, but I should have made an effort to make this happen. We did spend almost all of our evenings together but mostly at home. Now I think she's enjoying her little escape from reality once or twice per week when I have the kids over and she's enjoying her freedom. I know she often struggles when she has the kids on her own and seems to look forward to the break when I have them.
