Originally Posted by oceangrl

I have gone back and forth the last few days feeling like I will be okay, feeling like I am detaching, to feeling so much grief, to feeling so MAD at him (so not detaching I guess).

Hi OG, what a nightmare about the phone! I hope it’s salvageable.

I am cycling through all the emotions you describe, and it is sometimes overwhelming. I like to feel like I am detaching and suddenly I think about the reality of what is happening and I hit the floor with grief. How do you deal with the grief? I sometimes find a really good cry helps drain some of the negative emotions away, but it’s not always practical to have a big cry (e.g at work). I’ve never had to deal with a close family bereavement as an adult , and I feel so ill-equipped to deal with any kind of grief. I’m trying to get myself from denial to acceptance but it’s hard. I guess these emotions are all a normal part of the process. Keep strong and keep holding your head high. You are doing amazingly ! X


M:49 H:49
T:20 M:18
D:16 D:14

EA: Feb 2019-May 2020
Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020
H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020
EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020
Recon #2: since Nov 2020