Husband Living a Double Life

[MoGirl]

Hello, everyone. Here's my story, I'm 47 and soon to be ex husband is 45. We have been together for 24 years and married 23 years. I just found out he has been having an affair with a 21 year old for at least 2 years, maybe 3. His parents live in another country and he goes there every 6 months. Come to find out, it's the cleaning girl. I found all of their pictures, messages, and they were even sending voice messages to one another. Not sure how that works. Maybe it was through the app. They were contacting one another through WhatsApp.

I can't seem to get their conversations out of my head. He is acting like a lustful teenager. He says he's in love with her. He feels like a new man. They are soul mates. They refer to one another as husband and wife. He is her king and she is his queen. He wants to take care of her and have children with her. He's telling her all of the ways he wants to make lover to her. Quoting poetry, etc. As I'm reading their messages all I can think about is WHO are you and what have you done with who I thought was my husband.

It's just disgusting. She was married and left her husband so he's trying to secure himself as her next husband. He asked her to marry him earlier this month. WTF? I don't know who this man is. Although I had my suspicions he was having an affair, never in my wildest dreams did I think it would be with a girl younger than our daughter. I'm devastated. He hasn't even apologized to me or our daughter. In fact, he hasn't said anything to me since I confronted him. At the time I confronted him, I had not found their love messages to each other.

He's staying with a friend and only contacted me once to say we need to split the finances. That's a load of crap. He makes more than twice what I do. I supported him in his career and while I worked, my jobs were not as demanding because I was busy raising our daughter and his nieces who lived with us for 5 years. I don't make enough to cover half of the finances. My response to him was "it's not that simple". I'm not agreeing to anything until I speak with an attorney. I have reached out to one that was highly recommended, but he is currently out of town.

I wanted to come here and vent. Get some moral support. I have no intentions of trying/wanting to reconcile. Even if I wanted to, he is too far gone. I feel like I'm in one of those bad Lifetime movies.