You "mother" him entirely too much. The man is grown and he doesn't need someone mothering him all of the time. We need to remind you...he fired you as his wife. He wants his business to remain his and your business remain yours, so give him what he asked for...his private time and space. If he speaks, then you reply back. Do not question him unless it is about finances. As for where he's sleeping when he's not there....as he stated previously...it is now none of your business. The more you question him, the more he is apt to stretch the truth or just lie.
Give him all of the space he can choke on. Leave him alone. Learn to detach a bit more. This isn't your first rodeo and you need to go back and revisit your previous thread to see what you did back then. However, as I stated previously, I do not think your h returned to the marriage 100% 2 years ago. He was still thinking about his situation and it finally got to him. This new situation really isn't a new one at all...but a continuation from 2 years ago. I know you'll disagree w/me, but I call it as I see if from your previous thread and the postings of the here and now.
What you need to understand...he's mentally checked out and when they are like that, nothing will bring them back until they are ready to work on themselves and their situation. That is why is it important for you to focus on you, your son for now. Step way, way back and give him the time and space to figure things out. The more you hover, the more he will resent the hovering and you and yes, the world outside will look so much more inviting to him.
Keep that focus on you. Do what you need to do to get by each day. Make a list of things that you've wanted to do and never had the opportunity to do them and then....start working on that list.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
