Maybe you misunderstood my question. I was looking for something like this:
"I was in the kitchen charging my batteries and W comes in and just keeps bothering me for like 30 minutes" or "I got home and W followed me everywhere asking me questions"
YES --- it would have been this.... :-(
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or "I got home and my wife was not there. Two hours later I texted her and she did not respond. I called an hour later and it went to voice mail. " or "I showed up at the house and wife was all dressed up and running out the door. She didn't even say goodbye"
However --- I realize it should have been that ^^^^^
I see what you are saying. I am making myself too available to him. I'm still in that taking care of my H mode. Discussing if I cooked up the short ribs that have been in freezer would he eat them... he said softly yes without looking at me.
When he stated he was making lasagna for his lunches later this week. I let him know that we had noodles, and some cheese - he is never in the pantry so he was rooting through it and I knew I had a second box of noodles. He got a little annoyed that I stepped in and grabbed the box... I was clearly hoovering to help him.
I then asked how much lasagna he was making. He replied his usual amount (its one of his go to dishes). He then said there would be plenty if I wanted some. I said okay thanks.
I still got him up last night when was not getting up for work after alarms had gone off 1 1/2hr ago.
Maybe if he is in the other room and not MB I can let go of doing this.
R2C - I see what you are saying. I need to be doing the latter and not the former.
