Hey everyone! Well my brother and sister and I spent an emotionally exhausting weekend going through every nook and crannie in dad's house. It all went smoothly, we had no issues dividing up the things we wanted to keep, none of it was really worth much except sentimental value. I think I mentioned before that dad strangely just quit opening his mail 6 months ago. I went through it all and made a long list of bills he owes. I showed that to my sister and explained there is no money in trying to sell his house but she still wants to try. Not for monetary reasons, but because she has memories attached to it.
As a side note, my dad lived in Houston. I'm not sure if this made the national news but there was a huge explosion there in a business about a month ago. Turns out it was about 3 miles from dad's house and may be the reason he died (heart attack). We know he died sometime in a 48 hour window but not sure exactly when. The explosion happened in about the middle of the window. We drove through the area and the devastation is incredible, it must have been a massive explosion. Looks like a war zone.
So I returned from the trip Sunday evening and was sitting eating some peanuts and cracked a tooth! UGH! When it rains it pours! Dentist was closed yesterday and couldn't see me today so I have an appointment for tomorrow. It doesn't hurt much, but there's a jagged edge that keeps stabbing my tongue.
I still talk a little on and off with XGF but just casual "hey how's it going" stuff. I'm still talking to the other lady as well although I think we will just be friends.
Originally Posted by LH19
I think what gets lost on this board is that people change and are needs change. I’m probably never going to marry again because I’m pretty sure my needs now aren’t the same as I’ll have in my 60s and 70’s.
No relationships last forever and some are meant to be short term. The important thing is that each person comes into your life for a reason and to teach us a lesson.
Marriage is definitely not on my radar either. I got married in my mid-20's mainly to share life with my XW and to start a family. My family days are over, I love my kids to pieces, and I love kids in general, but at nearly 60 I have no desire to start a new family. I'm completely open to a romantic relationship but really don't see getting married again. I'm just too set in my ways, and like my space, LOL!
Originally Posted by bttrfly
Of course people and needs change. The point is, in a relationship one hopes that even if people and needs change they still work together on the relationship, that it stays a priority.
Couldn't agree more. I was willing to change and flex and accommodate to make the M continue, but my XW wasn't. I really do think that if she had been willing to put in even 25% effort it could have worked. But she even admitted herself that she didn't want to put in 1%. She actually said exactly that! I don't understand why you wouldn't want to put effort into your longest-term and most important life investment, but it happens!
