Doc is very type A, very clinical. She tells me all the time that I see a side of her that 99.5% of the population doesn't see.
What happens when you stop being in the one half of one percent and join the other 99.5? This is not a new thought for me as I’ve thought it before - actually early on. You’ve mentioned this before about her treating you differently than she treats employees, some family, many friends, etc. I just figured you’d start to see more of it but so far, even a little over a year in, you have not. You’re still getting a pass.
It’s a tough call. You maybe never well become part of the other 99 percent but you’re in a small segment and OMG what would she do if she moved you out of the inner circle? I really don’t know and I am not even suggesting this is a dealbreaker but it is concerning. Perhaps as long as you continue to stand up to her, you’re okay. But dang, I have to believe that the other 99% see the real doctor and you’re still getting the restrained version or at least the version she’s trying to be until she has you totally locked down. Move forward a few years and you’re married, I’ll bet you she continues to leave the bid on the table and takes you to the mat over it. She no longer has to put on the act.
Again this is hard because at least what you tell us, she doesn’t usually act this way - although perhaps she does, just not with you. This is why some woman say they pay attention to how guys they date treat wait staff or service people. You almost have to assume at some point you will be treated like the other 99% and if I’m correct, will you be okay with that? It seems like that’s who the real doctor is. You may still be getting the good doctor - not the real doctor everyone else gets - like her neighbor.
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