She’s the gatekeeper because you allow her to be. This needs to stop.
Originally Posted by unchien
Right but I need legal action for this to happen.
It's not "Ex-Wife is gatekeeper until the courts weigh-in", it's "Unchien and Ex-Wife are equal gatekeepers until the court weighs in." If you both want to spend time with S on his birthday weekend, you are equally entitled. Possible exceptions--you've signed away rights, the court's already stepped in, the status quo is you don't see your kids on birthdays, your kids don't want to spend time with you.
Let's say my W wanted more time than she has now. I would be the gatekeeper.
We have established precedent during our S. I would like to change it, she wouldn't. Without 3rd party assistance we are unable to make changes. It just is what it is. I try, she shuts it down. If she tried to ask for more money, I would shut it down.
Hopefully we can have a productive mediation session this week.
