I will be able to work on the resentment once I have a stable situation. Right now I am sacrificing time with my kids and money for no good reason. I feel now is not the time for me to work through my resentment.
As for putting the kids in the middle, I mean, I’m going to fight for 50-50. That is just the right thing to do. I’ve taken classes and read books on how to minimize the impact of divorce on my kids and I intend to do my part to do this right. However... the “easy” thing to do for my kids would be accept less time with them and continue to provide a soft landing for my W. I am not going to play along anymore. I empathize with how difficult this transition may be for my W, but I’m no longer accommodating a lousy situation.
