Perils of piecing - thread 8

[may22]

Hi Alison,

Just a quick note in/re the SSM-- maybe your H should read the Emily Nagowski book-- or actually both of you. It doesn't sounds like the desire discrepancy between the two of you is the primary issue, but it is definitely one where there can be a lot of shame and fear and feeling that something is wrong with you, which is all so easy to leach into other feelings and then anger. I can imagine for your H being a male and the LD partner could be even more difficult. Anyway, perhaps that is one area where you both can learn about yourselves and each other. It lays out a really different framework for how desire/arousal works (not just for women, for everyone).

M