I think it is not totally wrong for you to look back and see what your missteps were in the M. But you are not the only one to blame. He has his fair share also, don’t forget that. I agree with what Steve said, whatever you did wrong, is no justification for his behavior. Yes, he is hurt....but so are you. Take care of yourself first before thinking about his pain.
About the ring- my H doesn’t wear his. I was so angry after BD so I took it off. Then later he threw a tantrum about me taking my ring off, saying that it was the only little hope he had left of our M (which was totally nuts because he still did not have his ring on). Anyways, later I decided to put it back on not for him, but because I’m choosing to stand for our M and I am still married. (Plus it’s pretty). Don’t worry about what your H thinks. You do things for YOU.
I'm tired... I will have to go home at lunch and see he is in the other bedroom.
Last time we had troubles he really talked with me.. I was his support system... he leaned on me. He even said at times I was pushing him away by contacting so much so I did pull back and things got on track... How foolish was I not to see him struggling with his own self worth when I pulled away due to mine.
This time he has other people to confide in... other support that is pushing him to end it and find his happiness again without me. I know I cannot compete in that world. He feels I lost interest in him and that is compounded with tons of support in his decision to end the M.
I'm exhausted, worn out, beat up.
But, then I see him. He sits without emotion and trying to work through our financial issues... this is the man that I love but sometimes don't always like. I feel nothing but support and compassion and a want to be by his side.
