KC, you have to stop making excuses for him. It is NEVER okay (short of adultery or physical abuse) to pull the plug on a MR, and to start an A. NEVER. Even if you were the worst W in the history of MR, he took vows of "for better or for worse" and therefore his energy should have been in doing his part to work on MR. STOP BLAMING YOURSELF.
Good men do not leave their wives and start As. Sorry, I ain't buying that. We've been down that path before. Start moving on with your life, you cannot "fix" him.
Wanted to address this: As far as your wedding ring, why are you taking it off? You are still married. After you are no longer married then you can remove your ring.
Steve85 --- aren't the majority of women here trying to save their M have H's in A's??? and yet some get through to the other side?
As for the ring... because he took his off 3 weeks ago. Is seeing me with mine on more pressure??
I foolishly asked where the his ring was. H said it was the same place its been for 3 weeks. I said where is that? H said on his key ring. Honestly I thought it would be in a drawer somewhere. He isn't wearing it but he is carrying it everywhere. When he is in the his truck with her... its on the keyring.... Interesting. Surprised by that but I shouldn't have asked.
