^^^ I have to agree with Steve. I understand you love your H, but he is no prize. I think you can do much better than 2x cheater and master manipulator.
But, isn't that part of his dissatisfaction and unhappiness in the M? I know exactly what he is doing and why. While not on purpose I've left him feeling so empty for so long of course he let a supportive listening friend that he leaned on to much to develop into something it shouldn't.
He is the responsible party in that but I too bear some responisbility -- not meeting his needs and even when he expressed that to him it seemed to fall on deaf ears.
Now he is all focused on the drive and how much it is killing him.
I wish he would have just come home one day and said - its moving to X or we D... I would have packed my bags in 30seconds.
