Right now I’m torn between “not doing the heavy lifting” as far as working with mediator, real estate agent, etc. and moving things along so W clearly sees I’m letting her go.
From what I’ve read here, it seems like the LBS ends up with a D more often than not when they focus on themself and wait for W/MLCW to file their paperwork etc. Why waste time (aside from GAL, working on myself of course) waiting for the inevitable when I will never be more attractive than when I’m walking away?
As stated above, I don’t necessarily want D, but it seems inevitable at some point.
Thoughts appreciated!
Are you ready to D? If yes, then go file. If not, then don't. Do not file for D for any other reason than you are ready to D and move on with the rest of your life. Do not do it to manipulate your W to come back. That backfires 99.9999999999% of the time.
9 times out of 10 the LBS ends up with a D because they decide it is time to move on and file and/or move the D forward. WASs are notoriously lazy when it comes to D.
So when you are ready to be D'd, then take over the heavy lifting and do it. Until then, DB your tail off.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
