Job can you link my old one to this one. I cdd as my do it, it’s closed. Thanks
I have a question. My ex is definitely poisoning my daughter about me. My d says things that would it come from a 12 year old. Like my girlfriend is too nice, that is fake no one is that nice. Or she my d actually said, why is a 40 year old still living at home. What’s wrong with her? There must be something wrong if she still lives at home. I responded to that with, “There is nothing wrong with that. She is very picky on who she wants to spend her life with. I hope that you would do the same. Not rush into anything with someone. She is being smart. I would want you to do the same thing.” The point is my ex is bad mouthing me. Is there anything I can do or should do? I know if I confront my ex. She will deny anything. Or is this just going to be divorce? My d is drifting more and more away from me. In case anyone forgot my d already had an unhealthy obsession with my ex. My IC and my kids IC said to me it’s normal for the abused child to latch on to the abused parent, always looking for love, that they don’t want to be discarded. Abused verbally at times. She has told my d she looks like $hit, she smells like $hit, her hair looks like a birds nest. That’s embarrassing how you go out. And she has seen my ex cut family and close friends out of her life permanently. It just hurts so much, how much I love my children and everything I did for them and how I could die in front of my d and she would step right over me and keep on walking. I know my d is hurting and this is hard for my kids. I just feel like I lost everything. Family and home. Any advice would help.
You can't control your ex-W. Your D is naturally not going to like anyone you date. This is not proof that your W is behind it. I could see my D at 12 saying and asking those kind of things. You talk about 12 yearolds as if they are all the same.
So don't fixate on it. Just make your kids life the best you can when you are with them. Kids are smart. They see when a parent is a good parent. So be a good parent and let your exW deal with them her way.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
