"I understand how you feel, you've stated that multiple times. I feel obligated to point out that I am not wanting any of this, I am the one trying to hold everything together, and you are the one insisting on S and/or D. However, if that is what you want then I will give it to you as I am powerless to stop it if it is what you want. However, I do have to protect and look out for myself if you insist."
This is a little off the DB path, but I think it is important to make sure he understands that HE is not the victim here. When you deliver these kinds of messages you need to be calm, cool and collected. No emotions. Just flat and matter of fact.
WASs and WSs in particular are masters at turning things around and making themselves the victim in these things. I see so much of that behavior in him. That is probably why he came back in to tell you about the garbege. "See how great I am! Even though I am the victim, you are trying to take me for everything, and you won't even clean the spare bedroom out for me, I am STILL nice enough to purchase a new kennel, bring the new dog in, and take out the garbage!"
SICKENING. Why are you trying to save things with this person?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
