Friday night happy hour with a friend. Saturday, a 31 mile bike ride with same friend! The day was a bit chilly, but gorgeous. Dinner out with D20 Saturday night, long walk on Sunday with another friend, church, and more time spent with D20. Did some cleaning, a little painting, a small project with D20, made a batch of French Onion Soup (which was fantastic), and 3 loaves of French bread (also yummy). Delivered a loaf to another girlfriend and had a nice chat. So, 3 friends, time spent with D20, yummy comfort food and lots of time spent outdoors, my happy place.
Life is Good.
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Originally Posted by DnJ
Answers will present themselves.
DnJ – If you only knew how often I have shared these wise words with friends over these months. Thanks for the reminder to be patient and heed this advise myself!
Originally Posted by DnJ
Expectations have seeped in a bit. Push them back and find hope again. Let no one take away your hope.
Yep – you hit the nail on the head here. I was silly enough to think that because H doesn’t want a D, and he said he wants to “extricate himself from his current situation” that he would actually do it. And right away. Silly me. Back to no expectations.
Originally Posted by DnJ
However, who do you think God is actually working on? .
Well this hit me over the head like a ton of bricks! I’ve had this recurring thought in my mind lately, over the last few weeks or so. That the rest of my life is going to be spectacular. I can feel it. Maybe that’s what we call hope. I guess it doesn’t matter. So, who does God want me to wait for him to work on? Does me knowing the answer change anything? Nope. That is out of my hands, but the bottom line is I still feel compelled to wait.
Originally Posted by DnJ
Grace, two and half years ago my wife blew up our lives, separated, and we divorced. I am still married in my heart and my values. A piece of paper doesn’t change anything.
Thanks for sharing this, DnJ. It’s a concept probably only the people going through this and living it can really understand. It’s validating hearing it from you, and knowing you are in a really good place living with it.
Originally Posted by DnJ
Unless you need protection or security - why D? I don’t see things changing within your heart from a piece of paper any more than mine did.
Indeed. Why? I believe I will have regrets if I try to rush this process. To control the process. This week I will be focusing on the post-nup, as my attorney is supposed to be recovered from her illness. Saturday I will see H at the house, as I’ve asked him to come over to go through some of his stuff. We will see what unfolds.
