After 3 nights away H came home at 5pm Sunday to then turn around and leave at 7:30pm for work.
I didnt known he was on way home when I called because the puppy was getting out of his garage kennel... strong pup! And he ate the drywall H had just repaired.
So H walked through the door an hr later with new garage kennel [we have indoor one but dogs stay in garage during day so H can sleep]... He puts together.
I was eating dinner alone when he came home.
I said Hello very friendly like... I got hmmmm... as he walked past not looking at me. Later I asked if he had a good weekend... he actually looked at me and said yes... I replied good.
He is looking at the numbers and asked what paperwork I've done...I tell him what I have worked on so far. He seems annoyed. I let him know I found out that he was not correct about legal separation. I sort stated that I had a client who was an atty and asked her some questions which is NOT a lie.. she is a client of where I work and our kids are in the same grade. He then took me off guard by saying could she just do all this for cheap??? What??? I said she was privy Nd one of the best in town.
He said he was not finding a house so he will probably have to rent and out everything in storage. He said he will not move in with his parents. He then eluded to he had another option but he would need storage... I didnt ask as I assumed he was talking about moving in with A.
Great - I'm so accommodating... well you dont have to move out and you dont need to find storage... What am I doing????
He made it clear he is moving out of MB to other room... there is lots of boxes and stuff I have been going thru in that room... I will not move them.. he will have to deal. I just made major changes to keep things quiet in kitchen and MB for him to sleep better... if that's not good enough deal with the issues of the second bedroom.
He then stated he is giving this till the end of March. If no house he will go to apt but he cant take the dog. He said we need to mind our own business... I shouldn't be prying into his life and he wants to know nothing of mine. He went on to state that neither of us would be really pleased to know what the other is doing... WHAT???? What does he think I am doing????
H went on later after shower to state that he does not want screwed over. He got taken for in his first D and we woman were just out for every thing. I looked at him while he talked and let him rant. He then back peddled and made a comment that he wasn't trying to diss me but that he had been through this before and it was a bad experience.
???? I didnt say a word... but my head is screaming we don't have to do this... we dont have to D. You are the one making it about D. But, I said nothing.
He didnt have anything for lunch so he asked if he could take the leftover pot roast... I said not a problem and he packed it.
I told him to have a good night.
I then got on the phone with my mom to decompress from the situation. I'm yacking away when H suddenly comes through garage door... he left thru front door. He looked surprised to see me on phone and I was surprised to see him. He said he took the trash out to the curb... uh okay... thanks for doing so... and then back out the front door.
That caught me off guard. And, did he need to come back and tell me that? He also said other dog was in garage. I thanked him for that info... we had all been in garage when H was showing the puppy the new kennel and somehow the other dog didnt come back in the house.
I've got to get on the ball... I was good about NC all weekend until the end of Sunday.. still I would have preferred not having contacted at all.
I want to save my marriage desperately... but it not up to me. He is so hurt and angry about how he felt I was too him. I get it now... no more "yes, but"... I can validate your feelings better... we can move. Nothing matters now but stopping the commute and this A.
