Hi Yail,

First off-- before I forget, I am totally into Betabrand and have their yoga denim jeans (and only basically wear the dress pants yoga pants to work these days). Check them out, so so comfy and nice looking. (Don't know about the waist gap though!)

But back to the meat of what I wanted to say-- I am always so amazed by you. You are always looking out for someone, be it the sad colleague on the bus or the person in need of a few weeks of housing. It is really inspirational.

Here's another poem to offer, by Naomi Shihab Nye, called Kindness. I came across it twice in three weeks, both randomly, and it says a lot to me right now, and makes me think of you.

Before you know what kindness really is
you must lose things,
feel the future dissolve in a moment
like salt in a weakened broth.
What you held in your hand,
what you counted and carefully saved,
all this must go so you know
how desolate the landscape can be
between the regions of kindness.
How you ride and ride
thinking the bus will never stop,
the passengers eating maize and chicken
will stare out the window forever.

Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness
you must travel where the Indian in a white poncho
lies dead by the side of the road.
You must see how this could be you,
how he too was someone
who journeyed through the night with plans
and the simple breath that kept him alive.

Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.
You must wake up with sorrow.
You must speak to it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth.
Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore,
only kindness that ties your shoes
and sends you out into the day to gaze at bread,
only kindness that raises its head
from the crowd of the world to say
It is I you have been looking for,
and then goes with you everywhere
like a shadow or a friend.


Me (46) H (42)
M:14 T:18, D9 & D11
4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs
9/20 - present: R and piecing