Perils of piecing - thread 8

[Jefe]

Allison, I am not caught up on your situation fully, but Just the brief glimpse I had of your weekly update, let me say this. The alcohol must not be a factor here. Meaning, you must draw a hard boundary here. You absolutely will not discuss the relationship when he's been drinking. You explain fully that you DO want to hear his thoughts and concerns but you want to hear from HIM and not the alcohol.

My opinion is that the entire conversation from the time that he came upstairs was absolutely pointless. I need to go back and read up, but this is a time to start new, healthy habits for communication, not fall back into the same dynamics.
Your focused on all of this banter back and forth about schools and chores, incomes and discipline yet the core of all of this discussion is *his* addictive behavior just from my quick glimpse.

Rest well tonight and don't worry about his self view, that isn't your job. You just focus on being the best YOU you can be. I'll read up on your story tonight.