Its ultimately the coming and going on HIS terms... that is eating away at me... If I put my foot down and tell him it has to stop.
Fighting isn't healthy for anyone. Can you legally TELL him to stop coming? With one ex I could and did. When they entered anyway I called the police, the police informed them next time it would be a felony, and that was the end of it. No fighting. Since you're married, I suspect you can't TELL him to stop coming. You probably could take all his things out of the master bedroom and put them in another room, and tell him you won't share a bedroom with a cheater and lock the door when you're in it so you feel more at peace he won't randomly enter. In most (not all) situations the other party takes the hint. If he doesn't (e.g., he breaks down the door), you could ask your attorney about upgrading your bedroom lock, a restraining order, temporary alimony, a quicker split (selling of assets) so you have adequate funds for your own place, etc.
Originally Posted by KitCat
Do I call him or text him that this is working out for me???
Since you two are no longer a couple, it's no longer your job to wake him up, but it's also no longer his job to solve situations that aren't working for you. I'd come up with your own solution and inform him if-needed. Many solutions don't require much informing. E.g., he comes home and finds all his things in the guest bedroom, or he receives a summons for a court appearance to determine temporary alimony. Not informing him has benefits--no arguing about it and he has less opportunities to prepare countermeasures. This is no longer someone to trust, and you two have different goals for the future.
I'm really proud of your GAL activities. You're finding your strength, Kat.
