I don't want a divorce II ---- NEW THREAD Part 3

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Sounds like you had an adventure at the local winery yesterday. So, you now know that they have live music on Wednesdays and a food truck, make it a point to visit on a Wednesday. This is a good way to get out of the house and meet and be around other people. There is no harm in making chit chat w/others at these functions.

Sitting at home, in a very quiet house, can be a bit much. Nothing says you have to stay there unless you absolutely want to be there. Life is waiting out there for you...you have to start doing things on your own. People do it all of the time these days. Heck, female teens are going to their proms w/o dates these days, which when I came along, seemed very odd...but today's society encourages people to go solo and meet new people out there.

I hope you enjoyed your dinner. It's nice to have familiar aromas in the home. It makes home feel more like a home. Get some room fresheners and start using them. Lavender is a good one to have around. It will relax you a bit.

Why do you feel the need to have your guard up around him? You've lived w/him for many years and unless he becomes abusive in any way, I would go about my business. The more you act like yourself, the more the guilt will eat at him. He's the one that is walking out the door...you have absolutely nothing to feel guilt about w/his decision to go. If he weren't such a quitter, he would have sat you down a long time ago and have some serious discussions w/you about everything...but he just dropped hints in a passive-aggressive way. You are not a mind reader who can read his mind.

Go to church, speak to some of the congregation and do something nice for yourself today.

As for the ring, you, and only you, can decide when it comes off. If you aren't comfortable w/removing it right now, then leave it on. If you opt to take it off, find another ring and put it on the finger.

KC, you've got this! You just have to find the confidence and strength to think outside the box.