In my sitch, I retained an attorney. H has yet to do so. I gathered all of our financial information I could - statements of all assets, bank accounts, credit cards, etc. I reviewed his gross pay, mine, what I thought reasonable for alimony, and completed a financial disclosure statement (which has not been shown to H). He has done nothing, except provide a few documents when I said "My attorney needs this". Basically, I fingured out what my bottom line would be without asking/discussing with H first.
I have not filed for D. But, if I did, that attorney would give him 20 days to respond to the petition. You can do the same I would imagine. Let your H fingure out his side. You worry only about you and kids. A financial disclosure statement would be mandatory at that time. So, if you have access to any financial information, yours, his, joint, get it all together. Don't even ask your H. Then present it to an attorney for help. Make copies for the attorney, too. This will save some money.
I interviewed 3 attorneys before I retained, and got a lot of useful advise with each one (for free during the first consultation).
I am new to your story, so I hope this is helpful.
(((Kindly)))
As Peace said, it's o.k. to feel your feelings, sit with them a while, and release them. It will get easier in time, and less cloudy on the business end.
