DBing usually says to accept some invitations and be too busy to accept others. Keep the focus on you. I suppose in a way the confusion and ambivalence we feel mirrors the confusion and ambivalence of our spouses. DB also says to believe none of what they say and half of what they do, so tread cautiously even if he says he's finished with the A. Even if he has he still needs to heal, to look inside himself at why he did such an awful thing, and what needs fixing within to make sure he can have a healthy R. Being warm and friendly but detached is your best bet while he does this. And moving on with your life! Set yourself goals which have nothing to do with him, do stuff which makes you happy. If he wants to come along for the ride in the future then he'll have to catch up. The LBS ends up being the healthier one because we haven't run away from pain and tried to bury ourselves in an A, we've grieved and grown and taken control of our lives and we will be ok no matter what.
