He really is confused isn't he? I'm imagining how this would play out if acted out physically like in a dance or something. He would be creeping towards you on tiptoes, then when you turn round, shoving you away and running. It's kind of how toddlers behave isn't it? They ask you for hugs and reassurance and kindness and then when you've given it to them they push you away because they strive for independence. Toddlers are a WHOLE lot easier to understand than spouses though Stepping back and observing kindly from a distance seems like the best approach for you though, I really liked the post on another thread about seeing the other person's actions as if they were in a novel. Personally I sometimes find myself thinking about the whole dramatic mess as being like a TV soap opera. So many cliches said, so many cliched scenarios enacted. But you know there'll be another episode coming and that the story line will be resolved one way or another. I have a gut feeling you will end up reconciling for some reason, but you have to detach before that happens...
Stepping back and observing kindly from a distance seems like the best approach for you though, I really liked the post on another thread about seeing the other person's actions as if they were in a novel. Personally I sometimes find myself thinking about the whole dramatic mess as being like a TV soap opera. So many cliches said, so many cliched scenarios enacted. But you know there'll be another episode coming and that the story line will be resolved one way or another. I have a gut feeling you will end up reconciling for some reason, but you have to detach before that happens...