Riding the Wave 2

[Ready2Change]

I appreciate the advice, I really do R2C, but I won’t be doing that any time soon. This hard lined stuff over an AP isn’t appropriate for me and my sitch. I have a15 yo D in my house that isn’t biologically mine that I refuse to treat like she’s a duffle bag he can tote with. Her stability, safety and well being are of my utmost concern. I will not push him out and risk what wayward spouse addled brain choice he may make dragging her along for the ride.

I completely understand. I have SD16 that I have raised for about 10 years. These sitch are complicated enough when we are dealing with bio children.

My problem is I can't keep everyone's details straight in my head, So I fall back on my core understanding of things that typically have worked better for others. I just see so many posters here letting the cheating spouse make all the decision. They "ignore" the bad behavior and there is no real natural consequences to the cheater.

Anyways, What is good for D15 is good for you. You do right for her. That is what I would do for SD16.