I'm sorry I don't have much to offer as I am my hot mess.
I do know when my H was in the house at the previous BD it was easier. He was observant and saw my changes. He was angry at first. Really angry because if I could be this way NOW, why wasn't I earlier. But, we slowly got back on track.
Now, with H out of the house. Coming and going as he feels necessary and shacking up with A. It feels much harder. I'm sure that is because this time he is set on leaving for sure. Where last time he really didn't know and not having an A he would talk with me more. Now, he shares all his thoughts with someone else.
Maybe your H was hoping your church leader would validate him more before telling what he should be doing? Finding a way for understanding and letting your H come up with his own action plan? I'm sure your H knows what he should be doing if he is no longer in PA and in the house. Sometimes when we are told to do something even if we know it needs to be done we resist.
Hugs... I'm in a for long weekend... home alone and my mind wanders... did he just get fed up enough that he filed for D on Friday???? I have no idea.
