Thanks Wooba, and others. Yeah... introducing me to the young girl he was sleeping with... that is a low blow. He has gone to counseling on and off. Either his IC is a crazy person or H was hearing what he wants to hear because he says things to me like "She (IC) said it was okay to lie about the affair, that it would only hurt you if you knew. She said I needed time to figure out what I want and that it was better to just not say anything to anyone until I figured it out." or "She (IC) said I have to be true to myself no matter what and that sometimes doing that might hurt other people. But that I am not responsible for how you (wife) feel. You are responsible for how you feel." I can't comprehend statements like that. Did she really tell him it was okay to be intimate with two people, at least one of whom had no idea the other existed? Are my young children responsible for how they feel too? Please someone tell me if *I* am the crazy one here?
Small goals. Ok. And yes more goals that are just about me-- someone suggested that. I know I need to get to that. Right now I am just trying to manage one day at a time. I did get through an entire day (yesterday) without crying or emailing H! And today I am going to a water aerobics class so that is something for me!
Thank you all. I wish I could have each and every one of you sitting around in my living room drinking hot tea.
