Gosh. I’m so sorry that you are here. I can’t believe your H invited you to a party with OW present. Is your H in IC?
It is great that you’ve set some goals you want to achieve. But why not make them smaller? Ex: I will not initiate contact with H today or I will go out and have lunch with friends and not think about H for 2 hours. Take baby steps. It takes awhile to achieve detachment, and even if you do, there will still be ups and downs. So don’t blame yourself for a few bad nights.
Most importantly, if you feel the need to fire off an email or get something off your chest, come here first. Lots of vets give great advice. You are not alone.
