Not following your sitch closely, but if he is actively involved with OW, then: "I believe it is best if you move out sooner"
I appreciate the advice, I really do R2C, but I won’t be doing that any time soon. This hard lined stuff over an AP isn’t appropriate for me and my sitch. I have a15 yo D in my house that isn’t biologically mine that I refuse to treat like she’s a duffle bag he can tote with. Her stability, safety and well being are of my utmost concern. I will not push him out and risk what wayward spouse addled brain choice he may make dragging her along for the ride.
