Through The Storm III

[KristinG]

Hey WF! I'm glad you got a laugh out of my emo-hulk description. That is the most accurate way I can explain it. "Kristin SMASH"! Omg a small part of my soul wishes you would Mrs. Maisel the ever-loving snot out of him and be the funniest and most vivacious woman in that class (because you already ARE that woman). I'm really glad that you got a nice response and that you felt good sharing something with him. The trick to it is to make sure that you're only sharing things because you want to share them and not to get a reaction from him. Also, try to limit expectations on what you want. I know I haven't followed specific DB rules, but more made improvements in my life and interactions with everyone around me. I did not do much LRT or NC, but I feel like I have been true to my heart. As Sandi says "do what works". Listening, validation, giving up control and "dropping the rope". They work. Give up expectation and try to enjoy the things in life that are meant to be enjoyed. With spouse or without.

W and I are still doing well. Things are calm and she is being sweet and thoughtful. I got a little triggered last night (found our pup chewing on something from the affair). I closed up for a few and tried to just realign my thoughts. It passed and I moved on. I'm still trying to learn how to tell W when something like that happens. In the same regards, I'm thinking on how to talk to her about removing gifts and reminders about the AP from the house. It's not yet my house as well and I don't want to be controlling or pushy. We are communicating very well and I'm hoping that it will all get easier with time. I hope you're doing well and I'll try to jump on your thread in the next 24 hours.

KG