ut, I did find out he was wrong about legal S - assets are protected. That was his one reason not giving me legal S. But now since they are --- will he give me legal S????
Why does this matter? S or D changes NOTHING. With him in an active PA it is just a legal procedure. Nothing more nothing less. He is no more your H with S as he is with D. S is no less final, or more final, than D.
I see LBS get fixated on avoiding D at all costs. First, it is out of your control. If he wants a D he doesn't need your consent, nor does he need you to know the truth on assets, etc. D is not a finality. Lots of couples get D'd and then end up getting back together. Drop your fear of D, it is causing you to focus on the wrong things and do the wrong things. Stop trying to control him and the sitch. You can't. And getting legal S does NOTHING to help your sitch.
Originally Posted by KitCat
As for IC - getting there. Had such a terrible experience the last time 2yr ago... a little PTSD there I think.
If you had a bad experience with a car, would you stop driving all together? Or would you get a new car?Throwing the baby out with the bath water is rarely a good decision. ICs are human-beings. Which means there are good ones and bad ones. Which means there are some that are right for one person, but completely wrong for another. I don't know why people get into IC, don't like, and they make a blanket decision to never do IC again. You should never settle for an IC that is bad or not a good fit. Shop around. Just like you would for a masseuse. Or a physical therapist. Or a doctor. When one doesn't work for you find another!
IC helps millions of people everyday. Don't let one bad experience sour you on IC as a concept.
Last edited by Steve85; 02/27/2004:38 PM.
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