More relationships end because of a wife's panic than a husband's determination to leave.
I have been in panic mode. I have woken him up when it wasn't necessary and he couldn't go back to sleep. I went into the bedroom yesterday when I really didn't have too... and woke him up.
My panic has pushed him further away and cemented his resolve that this is unfix-able.
I have to get my panic under control. But even as I go to atty I feel it will escalate things to where they were with his EW... he will have a knee jerk reaction of previous experience and shut down and bring on the fight.
A fight will not save this M. Letting go and detaching. Moving on. Letting him life without me is my only chance of a wake up call for him.
