Thanks BenB

[BenB]

So if you say "Could you go out to the cabin when you talk on the phone with him" and she says no, what would be your response? What are your options?

Do you see how that puts you in a terrible position? All you are doing is showing how attached you are.

Same thing with saying I don´t want to talk to you right now. What do you expect to gain by saying that?

The goal here is to become a new, confident you for your own sake. You can bet she will try to talk to you and temp check you from time to time. Would a new and confident you say "I don´t want to talk to you right now"?

To me that sounds like someone who´s moping. Read Sandi´s rules again and again.