You, yourself, say you weren't happy and you can't go back to that. I get that you are the one pushing D and right now it is hard to see the forest for the trees, but start looking at yourself in a positive light. Don't think about what your H gained in the new relationship with OW because that is between then, but look at what he lost in letting you go.
There are a few blogs I read that are about moving on and they talk about how breakups can be this huge catalyst for change if you embrace it instead of self medicating by like dating too soon, drinking or whatever. This one blogger says to be the one that got away. Says no WAS wants a LBS to become a better, hotter, stronger person as a result of being a LBS. They won't say anything and by then it won't matter but still I can see this. I think it bugs my H that I haven't fallen apart like he thought I would. He thought I couldn't be alone and well he was wrong. lol
