Originally Posted by kml
The most useful statement I read at this point in my divorce was - Let Go or Be Dragged. Once I let go, accepted that this was happening, I felt a lot less stress.


I'm ashamed to say this out loud after 30 years but my H wasn't a happy man. Loving him, longing for him meant chronic pain because he wasn't happy. He thought he was better than me and I bought it. Put him on a pedestal and would do anything for him convinced one day I'd get it right. Never happened then he moved on to greener pastures.

The other day I had a moment where I was glad I wasn't with him anymore. He's a total buzz kill, sexist, a racist, homophobic, just the most miserable, judgmental person. But he smiles, will do anything for anyone, he's just this great guy but it is exhausting so can't possibly expect a man like this to play catch in the backyard. He wasn't all bad of course there was just this underlying feeling of we were bothering him. He preferred to spend his free time sleeping or watching tv.

Duty calls. Finish this in a minute..